I was talking to Mr M about 2017 last week, about our goals (resolutions) for the year. One of the things he said he would like to do is to spend more time with us and see more of our friends and family. Not that we did not spend anytime together as a family or that we never saw our friends and family but that we could make more of an effort and that the time spend together were quality time.
It was not till a few days later that I was thinking about what he had said that I realised that I needed to do the same!
I have always though that I spend lots of time with Mr M and my girls, ok maybe not so much of Marisa as she is all grown up and in her own home. I could however make more effort to see her. When we were looking to move out of London I wanted to make sure that I was no more than 2 hours drive away from her and yet I hardly see her.
We could all say life is busy but when I try to break down what we do each day that keep us all so busy? it is always work. So are we saying that work is more important than of family? Don’t get me wrong I do understand that we all have to work, but should it be the priority in our life? Woooooooe it has gone bit serious.
Anyhow, this is what I have decided to do (which also means Mr M) we will visit Marisa once every other month and I am hoping that Marisa will do the same on the other month that way we will see each other every month. Marisa has also started to call me every week on her walk home from the station as it is dark. I love and look forward to her call every week, I almost don’t want winter to end. It is only a 10 minutes walk but that is all you need to catch up with your weekly news.
Mr M and I are going to have one day date a month (he does not know this yet!) Yes day date as we will not be able to get a sitter but rather than not spending time together as a couple at all we could still go on a day date.
Emma- Jane, now I really tough I spend a lot of time with this young lady but as I looked into what we do together? I have come to realised that although we are together all the time, it is not quality time. I spend most of my time telling her what to do! get up, brush teeth, eat, read, tidy, school, homework, piano and on and on.
Time for a change. I have now schedule 30 minute a day that we call Emj’s and Mummy time. This is at 7.30 every weekday evening (it is set in my phone alarm) we can do what ever she wants to do with me.
I know it seems sad that we have to schedule time to spend with each other but in this busy world we live in that is what we have to do. I don’t think it’s a bad thing at all. in this 30 mins, I put my phone away and we have quality time together. So far we have played boardgames, colouring, reading, she has also teach me what she has learnt in school! how she has learnt about Google sheets and slides. Someday when she is very tired we just snuggle up under a blanket and watch TV or talk about our day.
I have learnt so much more about my children’s day in these 10 minutes phone calls and 30 minutes together time that I have every done.
I feel that is might be a New Year Resolution I can stick to.
Note: English is not my first language. Please excuse any spelling or grammatical errors.